The idea of constantly having to prove one’s worth to the world day after day can be both exhausting and disheartening. It can feel like you can never do enough, be enough, or have enough to keep up. Of course part of the reason why we suffer from so much anxiety and self-doubt is because we are looking outside of ourselves for validation in the first place, but the second piece of the puzzle is that we rarely give ourselves enough credit when things are going well. If I am honest with myself, I can admit, that even in the midst of all that I have done and been blessed with this past year, I still find myself restless and unsatisfied. I ask myself, “when will it be enough for you, Kenya?” “When will you allow yourself to be proud of you?” At this moment in time, I can’t give you a concrete answer, but what I will say is that I am committed to closing the gap between, “the me that I see” and the “me that is to be.” Meaning that, however real and present my worthiness issues feel, I know that there are practices of gratitude and personal development that can transcend them. The key word here is practices. If this past year has taught me anything it’s that worthiness is a practice not a goal. Feel worthy requires daily effort (even if that effort is purely mental or emotional). You practice yourself into gratitude, worthiness, and eventually success.
However, like a lot of people, I wake up most days feeling overwhelmed. My mind spirals between what I didn't do last night and what, "I damn well better do," today. The stress of making a living, maintaining a relationship, building a business, and creating relevant content is crippling from the moment I get out of bed until I lay down at night. It’s lonely…and frustrating, and oftentimes completely paralyzing. What's worse is that I know that I am doing so much and achieving so much that I don’t even bother to factor into my “worthiness equation.” And that has to change. Transcending depression and self doubt starts with celebrating every victory, no matter how small. It starts with allowing yourself to be and feel proud for doing the little things that you would rather not do. For some simply getting out of bed is a victory, for others running a mile or eating healthy is a victory. So why not celebrate ourselves and our victories…everyday? So, in light of all that, I am going to start a “Daily Victory” series. I want to start posting my small victories on my Instagram and Facebook page every day. To be clear, this is not a campaign, so much as it’s a reminder… a signpost on my road to worthiness. Feel free to join me and post your own “Daily Victory,” as well. Let’s feel better.
interACTive Self-Help: By Author Kenya Jackson
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