Detachment and Disconnection (EXPANDED)

Two nights ago, I posted the following #notetoSELF on my Instagram Page.

note to self (and everybody else): On why I'm sad

There is a difference between detachment and disconnection. When you detach, you put emotional distance between yourself and the outcome. 
Detachment=peace 

When you disconnect, you put emotional distance between yourself and the process.
Disconnection=isolation and pain

Unfortunately, our inability to detach...
often leads to disconnection....
which ultimately causes the disappointment.....

(I must) fight the urge to disconnect and detach instead.

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Like every other #notetoSELF, I wrote it after spending the entire day struggling with a career related personal issue. As you can see, the note discusses the difference between DETACHMENT and DISCONNECTION. However, after reading the note, I felt that there was more to be said on the topic. Why? Because in my experience, I've found that each of us experience different levels of attachment and connection depending on the circumstance.

Beyond that, many of us are driven differently, depending on the area of our lives that is in question. For example, one can be Results Driven at work and Validation Driven in one’s love life. That’s why it’s so hard to place hard and fast rules and how and when to detach or disconnect (although I would argue that disconnection is almost always isolating and painful).  I guess what’s most important is not assign judgment to the way in which we choose to express our attachment and connection. I think it’s just one of those things that vary by person, by circumstance and by ability.  Plus, I have always felt that the more I understand myself (without judgment) the better chance I have at improving on the things I want to improve (without pressure). So here is my attempt at understanding myself and the world through the lens of attachment and connection. At the end of the summaries, I have included where I think I fall in the 3 major areas of my life (career, relationships, and spirituality). I encourage you to do the same. Feel free to post your list below or wherever else you come across this blog. Happy SELF-help-ing!